Xander was born on Tuesday March 20th @ 7:11 p.m. via emergency c-section. He was with us for about 20 minutes, before he passed. What a special little guy we are so privileged to have.
This has been quite a journey for all of you. My heart goes out to you and your family. You will be in my prayers and I am sure Xander is a very special sweet spirit. Love you. Lana Jane
Jaime & Cameron. I don't have words. My heart aches for your loss. I can only imagine the sorrow you must feel. Each time I look at those new baby footprints, the tears start again. Please know that I am crying with you, and praying for your comfort. I love you all so very much. Please feel my virtual hugs!!! Much love, Bobbi
We are very sorry for your loss and saddened that you didn't have more time to get to know his sweet spirit. Thankfully we know about the plan of salvation and we know that you will have him in the eternities. I know he must have been a chosen spirit if our Heavenly Father sent him here to receive his body and then called him home without needing to be tried and tested. Please know that we are here for you should you need anything at all. With love, the Beckers
I am so sorry for your loss. I wish I had words to heal your hearts. I too am crying with you and praying for you to have comfort. I am so greatful for the gospel and the knowlegde that you will see him again.
Oh, Cameron, Jaime, and kids, we're so sorry to hear about Xander. Please know we are thinking of you and sending prayers your way. Love & hugs, Ken & Kathy Spencer.
Xander's quote on your blog should be 'I'll be waiting when you get here!'. We feel for you so much, and send prayers and love. We are so grateful for the knowledge and strength of the gospel. We are so sad that we will not have the opportunity to meet him here on Earth, but so glad to know where he is and that he is and will always be part of our family. We will be thinking of him this Easter! -the Iowa Bybees
So sorry for your loss. Such a short time to see him...at least for now. Know that we and many others are praying for your comfort. Love Uncle Kurt Southam
Jamie and Cameron my heart is breaking for you guys right now. I can't imagine how difficult this must be. His foot prints are so sweet. Thank you for sharing them with us. I am so sorry for the pain you must be feeling right now. Wish I was there to give you guys hugs. Love, Jill Southam
This is Afton (Southam) Parker, Cam's cousin. My sister Amy just told me she saw this on facebook. I was so saddened by this and feel terrible for you guys. I don't know any of the background, but I can't imagine this happening. I'm so sorry. You have such a beautiful outlook on it based on what I've read. We'll keep you in your prayers.
Cameron and Jamie, We are so sorry for your loss. Having lost our son about a year ago I thought I'd share some of our discoveries. Everyone grieves in a different way and on a different timeline - so try not to get frustrated if it seems everyone else has "moved on" and you can't yet, or if you've moved through the process faster try to be sensitive to those that haven't. Give yourself time and try to push through the uncomfortable "firsts" when you're ready (first baby shower, first ward activity, first month anniversary, etc.) but don't let people force you into them before you're ready... they will slowly get easier. Your friends may not know how to talk to you at first - everyday life stuff may seem inconsequential to you for a while, and it is really compared to what you're going through, but they will be nervous to bring up Xander for fear of upsetting you. Try to help them know when you want to talk about it - your good friends will be willing, even if it feels like you're just talking about the same stuff over and over. Ashlee used our blog to vent and work through her feelings. This approach isn't for everyone, but you may find it helpful, or might find some comfort in the shared journey: http://konashkimsamalli.blogspot.com/search/label/Ian%20Wyatt.
We'll be thinking of you, Konrad and Ashlee Crabtree
Jamie, as a mom who has dealt with the same sadness, my heart is breaking for you. I wish I knew what to tell you to make it all better, but words can't do that. Just know that I will be praying for you. Remember that Heavenly Father loves you and is so sad that you are so sad that things didn't go as you had planned/hoped them too. Please feel free to contact me at any time. Sometimes knowing that someone else has gone through the same thing makes it a little bit easier. Helps you feel less alone. I had a friend to turn to as well and it was very comforting to know that the feelings I was feeling were "normal" and that I really was heading in a good direction with my grief. As Konrad mentioned...I shared my story on my blog...it was a good way for me to "talk" about my feelings while letting those around me know how I was doing. Email me if you need anything... ashcrab(at)gmail(dot)com I will be praying that you can feel the loving comfort of those around you. -Ashlee
This has been quite a journey for all of you. My heart goes out to you and your family. You will be in my prayers and I am sure Xander is a very special sweet spirit. Love you. Lana Jane
ReplyDeleteDearest Cam, Jamie and family, Our love and prayers are with you at this tender time. Connie and Gene Ransom
ReplyDeleteYou have our love and prayers. Families are indeed forever!
ReplyDeleteWe love you guys so much and are so sorry for your loss. We're praying for you. Please, please let us know how we can help. Love, Keely
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry for your loss. We are praying that your family will be comforted. The Charbonneau's
ReplyDeletemy mommy heart aches for you jaime. i hope you feel comfort and peace soon.
ReplyDeleteMy thoughts and prayers are with you and your sweet family. What a special spirit born to such special parents. Families are forever!
ReplyDeleteJaime & Cameron. I don't have words. My heart aches for your loss. I can only imagine the sorrow you must feel. Each time I look at those new baby footprints, the tears start again. Please know that I am crying with you, and praying for your comfort. I love you all so very much. Please feel my virtual hugs!!! Much love, Bobbi
ReplyDeleteWe are very sorry for your loss and saddened that you didn't have more time to get to know his sweet spirit. Thankfully we know about the plan of salvation and we know that you will have him in the eternities. I know he must have been a chosen spirit if our Heavenly Father sent him here to receive his body and then called him home without needing to be tried and tested. Please know that we are here for you should you need anything at all.
ReplyDeleteWith love, the Beckers
I am so sorry for your loss. I wish I had words to heal your hearts. I too am crying with you and praying for you to have comfort. I am so greatful for the gospel and the knowlegde that you will see him again.
ReplyDeleteOh, Cameron, Jaime, and kids, we're so sorry to hear about Xander. Please know we are thinking of you and sending prayers your way. Love & hugs, Ken & Kathy Spencer.
ReplyDeleteHey sis and fam, We love you all and wish we could be closer to you right now. Remember you are in our prayers. And Families are forever. Take care
ReplyDeleteLove Jaremy & Krystal
Xander's quote on your blog should be 'I'll be waiting when you get here!'. We feel for you so much, and send prayers and love. We are so grateful for the knowledge and strength of the gospel. We are so sad that we will not have the opportunity to meet him here on Earth, but so glad to know where he is and that he is and will always be part of our family. We will be thinking of him this Easter!
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Jamie and Family, no words can fill that hole that has been left in your heart,Just know that our love and prayers are with you.
ReplyDeleteLove, Aunt Rae
So sorry for your loss. Such a short time to see him...at least for now. Know that we and many others are praying for your comfort. Love Uncle Kurt Southam
ReplyDeleteJamie and Cameron my heart is breaking for you guys right now. I can't imagine how difficult this must be. His foot prints are so sweet. Thank you for sharing them with us. I am so sorry for the pain you must be feeling right now. Wish I was there to give you guys hugs.
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Jill Southam
This is Afton (Southam) Parker, Cam's cousin. My sister Amy just told me she saw this on facebook. I was so saddened by this and feel terrible for you guys. I don't know any of the background, but I can't imagine this happening. I'm so sorry. You have such a beautiful outlook on it based on what I've read. We'll keep you in your prayers.
ReplyDeletelove, Afton (btw, I love your daughter's name :)
Cameron and Jamie, We are so sorry for your loss. Having lost our son about a year ago I thought I'd share some of our discoveries. Everyone grieves in a different way and on a different timeline - so try not to get frustrated if it seems everyone else has "moved on" and you can't yet, or if you've moved through the process faster try to be sensitive to those that haven't. Give yourself time and try to push through the uncomfortable "firsts" when you're ready (first baby shower, first ward activity, first month anniversary, etc.) but don't let people force you into them before you're ready... they will slowly get easier. Your friends may not know how to talk to you at first - everyday life stuff may seem inconsequential to you for a while, and it is really compared to what you're going through, but they will be nervous to bring up Xander for fear of upsetting you. Try to help them know when you want to talk about it - your good friends will be willing, even if it feels like you're just talking about the same stuff over and over. Ashlee used our blog to vent and work through her feelings. This approach isn't for everyone, but you may find it helpful, or might find some comfort in the shared journey: http://konashkimsamalli.blogspot.com/search/label/Ian%20Wyatt.
ReplyDeleteWe'll be thinking of you,
Konrad and Ashlee Crabtree
Jamie, as a mom who has dealt with the same sadness, my heart is breaking for you. I wish I knew what to tell you to make it all better, but words can't do that. Just know that I will be praying for you. Remember that Heavenly Father loves you and is so sad that you are so sad that things didn't go as you had planned/hoped them too. Please feel free to contact me at any time. Sometimes knowing that someone else has gone through the same thing makes it a little bit easier. Helps you feel less alone. I had a friend to turn to as well and it was very comforting to know that the feelings I was feeling were "normal" and that I really was heading in a good direction with my grief. As Konrad mentioned...I shared my story on my blog...it was a good way for me to "talk" about my feelings while letting those around me know how I was doing. Email me if you need anything... ashcrab(at)gmail(dot)com I will be praying that you can feel the loving comfort of those around you. -Ashlee
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